I’ve always both heard and said that D/s relationships are more intense than any other. This truth becomes more apparent every day. The emotions, the physical actions, the things that go beyond simple human interactions… they are all infinitely more intense than any vanilla could even comprehend.
I believe that’s part of why living the D/s lifestyle is so “taboo.” It is difficult enough to understand how someone can treat their significant other as I do my kitten and it not be pure objectification. It is harder still to understand how such action would evoke such powerful positive reactions in her.
It is a strange thing, Dominance. Actions that to vanillas would seem abhorrent become acts of love. Words that to the rest of the world are deplorable become terms of endearment. It is a beautiful thing, to me, knowing that such taboo things can feel so absolutely right.
I read things like this and it reminds me that even those who are judged unfairly can (and do) judge unfairly in return.
It’s a strange thing, indeed. The need to judge others who don’t choose your lifestyle. To say that they can’t possibly comprehend it, to imply that it’s simply beyond them because they are “merely human.” If only it were that simple, eh? How easy life could be.
When the truth defies such simple lines. When the truth is that whatever your relationship choice, it’s still simply a relationship, with highs and lows and laughter and pain and good days and bad ones. A d/s relationship is not automatically more intense, a “vanilla” (the word itself carries the weight of judgment) is not automatically more boring.
All we are, all we have, are the ways we treat one another. I don’t think your relationship choice is lesser than mine in any way. Please do me the same courtesy. I don’t think that’s asking too much.